Therapy for women in progress
Women adulting – the struggle is real.
Feeling stuck, anxious, confused? If you’re a woman on the precipice of change but you find it’s difficult to launch or even take the first step, these words may describe how you’re feeling lately. I’m here to tell you, you’re not alone and it can get better – much better. Like you, many of my clients come in struggling between what they thought life was going to look like and what it actually is.
Some common reasons clients come to see me:
Depression
Anxiety
Family issues
Career change
Low self esteem
Divorce
Couple conflict
Whatever your situation is, be it in a partnership, changing careers, mourning the loss of a break up, having problems with your family or just wanting to gain insight into yourself, therapy can help. We’ll start by examining your current situation as well as your past, including your family of origin and past relationships. As we begin to discover the patterns that mark the habits in your life and relationships, we can begin the journey of changing course.
Steering the partner-ship.
Do you find yourself feeling stuck in your current relationships, a growing sense of disconnection with your partner, parents or friends? Have you begun to ask yourself – is this relationship right for me? Are you mourning the loss of a recent break-up or divorce or wondering why you still haven’t found “the one?” You are not alone – and you don’t have to go it alone, either. Together we’ll work to creating lasting change in your relationships and in yourself.
Party of one?
If your relationship is in need of help, you may think that couples therapy is the only logical option, but that simply is not the case. Change in any system can be achieved by working on just one part of that system.
But I’m not the problem!
You may hold the tempting, but false, belief that your partner is the cause of most, if not all of the problems in your relationship. “If he/she would just change, everything would be better.” But when you really think about that, is that even possible? While I am absolutely certain that your partner is part of the problem, I am just as certain that you are contributing your fair share to the issues in your relationship. Let’s figure out what that is, where it comes from, and how to change it – and you – for the better.
Why can’t I get it right?
Alternatively, you may hold the equally tempting (and equally false) notion that it actually IS all your fault. After all, if we can just fix everything that’s wrong with ourselves then wouldn’t all of these problems go away?
It is seductive to think that we really yield that much power and control in our relationships. But the fact is, it takes two people to be in a relationship. There are likely some reasons behind this line of thinking for you that you are the problem. Let’s explore where this comes from, how to change it and in the process how to better accept yourself for who you are. After all, only when we can know and accept ourselves can we truly be known, accepted and embraced by our partners.
Where do I start?
It isn’t easy to fully examine yourself. But when you can take the risk of being vulnerable with yourself, you open up to the possibility of immense joy, connection and satisfaction in your life and relationships.